What Is French Fry Sex? A Plain Guide to Viral Sex Slang
What is french fry sex? A plain guide to viral sex slang - french fry, soaking, fourth hole, the stomach thing, Ozempic sex and more - with health notes.
General education, not medical advice. If something here worries you, talk with a clinician.
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French fry sex is Love Island USA slang for intimate hand play under the covers. Peacock, which streams the show, says the cast used “french fries” as a code word for this kind of touching during Season 8. Other outlets stretch the meaning to oral sex or to sex in general, so the definition is looser than the jokes suggest.
It is one of many sex terms that spread quickly online and leave people searching for answers. This guide decodes seven of them, giving the plain meaning of each and a straight answer on whether it describes something real, a joke or a myth. Where a term touches on your health or on consent, a short practical note follows. Nothing here is graphic, because the goal is to help you follow the conversation and stay safe.
What is french fry sex?
Where the term came from
The phrase started in the villa during Season 8 of Love Island USA. According to Peacock, Islander Trinity Tatum coined it after Kenzie Annis and Corbin Mims were overheard being intimate one night. The next morning she asked the women who had been “doing french fries,” and the joke quickly spread through the cast.
The logic behind it is simple, since fries are a finger food, and viewers quickly joked about exactly that. All the couples share one bedroom while cameras run around the clock. A harmless food word let the cast talk about intimacy without saying anything explicit on television.
What it actually refers to
Sources do not fully agree, which is worth knowing before you repeat the term. Peacock describes it as intimate hand activity, which one male Islander also called “DJ-ing”. BuzzFeed, citing USA Today, says it covers finger stimulation and oral sex. A therapist’s blog goes broader still and reads it as general villa slang for sex.
The safest reading is the network’s own, which means touching with hands or fingers. The phrase works as a euphemism, so there is no special position, kink or technique attached to it. If a website describes french fry sex as a named position, that website is guessing.
Slang dictionaries also carry older, cruder definitions that use the word “fry.” Viewers who landed on those pages found they had nothing to do with what the Islanders meant.
Why shows and apps invent sex code words
Love Island changes its code words every season, and last season the favorite term was “journey”. Part of the reason is broadcast rules, and part of it is that naming sex out loud feels awkward for most people, on television and off.
That awkwardness can carry a cost in real relationships. The same therapist notes that research links direct sexual communication with higher sexual and relationship satisfaction. A cute code word is entertaining on a dating show. With a partner, though, plain phrases like “touching,” “oral sex” or “I’d like to slow down” are easier to understand and much harder to misread.
What does soaking mean?
Soaking means penetration with no thrusting. A couple has penetrative sex and then stays still. Online, it is told as a loophole for people whose faith forbids sex before marriage.
The claimed loophole
The story goes that if nobody moves, it does not count as sex. TikTok videos spread the idea that students at Brigham Young University did this to get around church rules. Some versions add a friend who bounces on the bed so the couple never moves themselves. Even reality stars who joke about soaking say they doubt that part is real.
Real practice or campus rumor?
Mostly rumor. Chelom Leavitt, a sex researcher at BYU, told Women’s Health there is no data on how common soaking is, and she believes it is largely a rumor. She adds that it clashes with church teaching, which is about keeping a connection with God, not dodging rules on a technicality.
Many former members tell the same story. In Men’s Health’s roundup of ex-Mormon forum posts, people describe soaking as an urban legend or a long-running joke. One commenter also pointed out a flaw: if the church defines sex as penetration, soaking is not a loophole at all.
So it makes sense to treat soaking as a viral myth about a religious group, and it is unfair to assume that any particular Latter-day Saint does it.
Soaking is still sex for your health
Whatever people call it, your body treats it as penetrative sex. A sex therapist quoted by Women’s Health says soaking carries the same STI risk as any other penetrative sex. Condoms lower that risk.
Pregnancy is possible too. Sperm can be present even without full ejaculation, and inexperienced partners may not stop in time. If you want to avoid pregnancy, use birth control, and know that emergency contraception is an option after unprotected sex. Shame can also follow when people use soaking to stay “pure,” and that shame is linked to anxiety and depression.
What is the fourth hole?
A joke with no fixed answer
The “fourth hole” is a TikTok joke rather than any real part of the body. It grew out of shock-humor videos claiming that women have four openings instead of three. That fourth opening is fictional and has no medical basis.
The punchline changes depending on who is telling it. Some users say it means the throat, while others say it means the back of the knee, borrowing from a Family Guy gag. The most common use is crude and reduces women to body parts. Critics also point out that the trend spreads mistaken ideas about anatomy to young viewers. If someone asks you what it means, the honest answer is that it has no settled meaning.
What the anatomy actually is
The vulva is the external genital area. It includes the labia, the clitoris, the urethral opening where urine leaves the body, and the vaginal opening. The vaginal opening sits just below the urethral opening.
The anus is a separate structure, and a patch of skin called the perineum lies between it and the vaginal opening. Tiny gland openings also sit near the urethra, but they are a normal part of anatomy rather than a hidden “hole”. Knowing these basics makes it easier to spot jokes like this one and easier to describe any symptom clearly to a doctor.
What is the stomach thing during sex?
“The stomach thing” has no single settled meaning, and we could not find a reliable source that defines that exact phrase. The closest documented trend is the belly press, which Woman & Home says TikTok users nicknamed the belly press thing. When people online talk about doing “the stomach thing” during sex, this is usually the idea they seem to mean.
The belly press, explained
The belly press means pressing gently on the lower belly, just above the pubic bone, during penetrative sex. The aim is to stimulate the G-spot area from the outside. Experts still argue over whether the G-spot exists as one spot. Even so, the pressure reaches sensitive pelvic floor muscles and nerves linked to the clitoris, which may explain why some people enjoy it.
The idea is older than the trend. Woman & Home notes that sexologists were talking about it about 12 years before TikTok made it popular. A video by a creator called Nurse Ria made it go viral, with over 1.2 million likes. The pressure also pushes on the bladder, which some people like and others do not.
When to skip it
Ask first. Refinery29 stresses getting consent before trying it on a partner or asking for it. Sex should never hurt, so stop if it does.
A pelvic floor physical therapist suggests skipping it if you have bladder leaks or period pain at the time. People with endometriosis or ovarian cysts may want to avoid it. People with IBS may also want to be careful. Pressure on the bladder can make some people tense up because they worry about peeing, which works against pleasure.
What does Ozempic sex mean?
“Ozempic sex” is shorthand for how GLP-1 drugs such as Ozempic change people’s sex lives. These drugs are used for diabetes and weight loss, and there is no act or position behind the term. The drugs belong to a group called GLP-1 medicines, which also includes Wegovy and Mounjaro.
Desire can go down or up
Planned Parenthood says people on these drugs report very different things. Some notice a lower sex drive, trouble getting aroused, vaginal dryness, slower orgasm or erection problems. Others feel more desire as their weight, sleep or blood sugar improves.
Early side effects play a part. Nausea and tiredness can dull interest in sex, and they often ease after a few weeks. A 2025 review in PubMed Central goes further. It puts forward a theory that these drugs lower sexual desire through serotonin, a brain chemical, while better mood and blood flow hide that drop. The authors say research is still thin and call for longer studies. For now, that idea remains an untested theory.
The birth control catch
This is the health note that matters most. Mounjaro, whose drug name is tirzepatide, cut the amount of birth control pill hormone in the body by about 20 percent after a single 5 mg dose in one study. The maker advises a barrier method such as condoms for 4 weeks after starting or raising the dose, or a switch to a non-pill method. Ozempic itself, whose drug name is semaglutide, did not seem to affect the pill.
Weight loss can also change ovulation and fertility. In some women with PCOS, periods become more regular. Pregnancy can happen after starting one of these drugs. These medicines are not meant for use during pregnancy, so if you are trying to conceive or think you may be pregnant, talk with your prescriber before you continue. If sexual changes last more than a few months, Planned Parenthood suggests seeing a clinician.
What is competitive sex?
From meme to record attempts
Online, “competitive sex” is often used as a joke. The gag goes that if “casual sex” exists, there must also be a ranked, competitive version.
More recently the phrase picked up a literal use. Us Weekly now applies it to adult content creators on OnlyFans who claim records for the number of partners in a single session. The best-known claim came from creator Bonnie Blue, who said she slept with 1,057 men in 12 hours. Other creators then announced rival figures, and Blue herself says the activity is her ongoing work rather than a passing trend.
So the term now has two meanings. Among friends, it is usually still the joke, while in news headlines it refers to these publicity stunts. Neither meaning describes anything ordinary couples do.
The health side
The stunts sit at the far end of a basic health fact. The WHO family planning handbook lists sex with more than one partner without condoms as a higher STI risk, adding that the more partners, the greater the risk. Us Weekly reported that Blue later had unprotected sex with 400 men in a separate stunt.
CDC guidance is practical and short. Use a new condom for every act, and remember that many STIs cause no symptoms at all. Not having sex, or having sex with one uninfected partner, is the most reliable way to avoid STIs. If you have several partners, regular testing is a sensible part of looking after your health.
What is sex bombing?
Sex bombing means using a rush of sexual attention to bond with someone fast, before trust has had time to form. It is the sexual cousin of love bombing. The term is newer and less formal, and so far it appears mainly in some therapy articles.
How it differs from love bombing
Australia’s eSafety Commissioner defines love bombing as over-the-top romantic gestures or comments, usually early in a relationship. It warns that this can be a sign of coercive control, a pattern of pressure and manipulation. Sex bombing puts the weight on sex instead. It means pushing to get physical very quickly, often alongside a flood of emotion.
Psychotherapist Ness Cooper told Cosmopolitan UK that love bombing in the bedroom can look like constantly offering sex. The goal, she says, is control over a partner’s sex life. Passion between two willing adults is not abuse. The difference is what happens when you slow down.
Red flags and consent
Watch for pressure, guilt or sudden coldness after you say no. Cooper also lists two subtler signs. One is acting as if consent is already given, and the other is making a partner feel a sex act was their idea. eSafety adds pressure to “prove” your love, such as asking for nude photos.
Rape Crisis England and Wales explains that you can change your mind at any time. You can also agree to one sexual act and not another. Under English law, consent means agreeing by choice, with the freedom and capacity to make that choice. A yes given under pressure does not meet that bar. If this sounds familiar, talk to someone you trust, keep a note of what happens, or contact a support line.
Quick reference: which terms are real, jokes or myths
Use this table to check a term at a glance. The middle column says how much weight the term can bear. The last column is the one to remember.
| Term | Plain meaning | Real, joke or myth? | Health or consent note |
|---|---|---|---|
| French fry sex | Hand or finger play, in Love Island USA slang | Real slang, loose meaning | Use plain words with a partner |
| Soaking | Penetration with no thrusting | Mostly a viral myth | Same STI and pregnancy risk as sex |
| Fourth hole | A crude riddle about female anatomy | A joke, no settled meaning | Vulva has two openings; anus is separate |
| The stomach thing | Usually the belly press during sex | No settled meaning | Ask first; skip it if it hurts |
| Ozempic sex | How GLP-1 drugs change sex lives | Shorthand, not an act | Mounjaro can weaken the pill |
| Competitive sex | Creators chasing partner records | A joke and a publicity stunt | More partners raise STI risk |
| Sex bombing | Rushing sex to bond fast | Informal therapy term | Pressure after a no is a red flag |
The pattern is clear. Most of these terms are euphemisms or jokes, and only a few describe something people commonly do. The health facts behind them stay the same whatever name is trending this week.
Frequently asked questions
What does French fry mean in slang?
In most talk, a French fry is just food. As sex slang, it comes from Love Island USA, where the cast used “french fries” as a code word for intimate hand activity. Some outlets read it more broadly as oral sex or sex in general. The finger-food joke is the key to the meaning.
Is french fry sex a position?
No. French fry sex is a euphemism, not a position or a specific technique. It started as a code word on a reality show so the cast could talk about touching without saying it outright on camera. Any site that shows it as a named position is guessing from clips.
What is the purpose of soaking?
The claimed purpose is to get around a religious ban on sex before marriage by staying still. Researchers and former church members say it is mostly a rumor. Whatever the intent, it still carries the same STI risk as penetrative sex, plus some risk of pregnancy.
Does Ozempic bring back libido?
For some people, yes. Planned Parenthood says desire and arousal can improve as weight, sleep or blood sugar get better. Others notice a lower sex drive, dryness or slower orgasm. Early nausea and tiredness can also dull interest, though they often ease after a few weeks. If changes last more than a few months, talk to a clinician.
What are some code words for sex?
Reality TV is a steady source. Love Island has used “journey” and “french fries” in different seasons, and earlier seasons used food terms like “avocado and tomato”. Code words are fun to decode. With a partner, plain words work better, because research links direct sexual talk to more satisfaction.
The bottom line
French fry sex is a playful Love Island code word for hand play, and most of the terms on this list work the same way. They are euphemisms, riddles or myths that spread because curious people search for them. Only a few, like the belly press, sex bombing and the real effects of GLP-1 drugs behind “Ozempic sex”, point to something you might actually encounter in your own life.
The names will keep changing, but the practical advice does not. Ask before you try something new, and stop if anything hurts. Use condoms and a birth control method that suits you, and treat pressure after a no as a warning sign. When the next viral term appears, check what it means before you repeat it or try it.
Related reading
- What Is Greek Sex? A Plain Guide to Greek, Russian and Polynesian Slang
- Sex Position Slang Explained: What 67, 68, 88, 10 and 2, and ‘Marry Me’ Really Mean
- What Is Unprotected Sex? Risks and What to Do Next
- What Is Solo Sex? A Guide to Self-Knowledge and Personal Choice
Sources
- What Is the Meaning of “French Fries” on Love Island USA? It’ll Make You Blush - Peacock
- What ‘French Fries Sex’ Means on Love Island - and Why We Avoid Saying Sex - My Mental Climb (Christina Mathieson, LMFT)
- What Is French Fry Sex? ‘Love Island’ Trend Explained - BuzzFeed
- What Is Soaking? The TikTok-Viral ‘Mormon Sex Act,’ Explained - Women’s Health
- What Is Soaking? The Mormon Premarital Sex Loophole, Explained - Men’s Health
- What Is the 4th Hole Slang TikTok? Context and Examples - Slang Insights
- Vulva: Location, Anatomy, Function, Conditions & Care - Cleveland Clinic
- Belly press trick: What it is, how to do it, and benefits - Woman & Home
- What Is TikTok’s ‘Belly Press’ Sex Trend & Does It Work? - Refinery29
- Cosmo Asks Heather Jeffcoat About This “Belly Press During Sex” Thing - FeminaPT (Heather Jeffcoat, DPT)
- Ozempic and your sex drive: what you need to know about GLP-1 medications and your sexual health - Planned Parenthood
- Clinical review of how glucagon-like peptide-1 agonist obesity medications decrease sexual desire, and a biopsychosocial model for why we don’t ‘see’ it - PubMed Central (Gelfand et al.)
- Contraceptive Pearl: Possible Drug Interaction Between GLP-1 Agonist and Oral Contraceptives - Reproductive Health Access Project
- Bonnie Blue Doesn’t Think The ‘Competitive Sex’ Trend Is a Trend - Us Weekly
- Who Is at Risk for STIs? - Family Planning: A Global Handbook for Providers (WHO / Johns Hopkins)
- Sexually Transmitted Infections | Travelers’ Health - CDC
- Sex Bombing Meaning: Signs, vs Love Bombing & Red Flags - Bhatta Psychotherapy
- When is ’love bombing’ coercive control? - eSafety Commissioner (Australia)
- Sex with a love bomber: A psychotherapist explains the warning signs - Cosmopolitan UK
- What is sexual consent? - Rape Crisis England & Wales